#into my manhating cult

[sanguinewolves]

neoliberals be like ‘you dont like my boyfriend? ive raised a manhater! 😢 where did i go wrong’ like no honey i love men. men are wonderful its just that your boyfriend is sexist and racist and transphobic and homophobic and a horrible parent to his children and actively trying to start a cult

[discyours]

(1/?) hello i need some advice. so, i'm really pissed at my mom right now and it has to do with me coming out as bi (i strongly prefer girls). for several months before i came out to her (about a week ago) she would always ask (at least once a week) "are you sure you're not gay or bi? i'll accept you even if you are sweetie." this had to do with me saying "boys are so annoying, boys are so obnoxious" all the time. then, when i finally did come out as bi and said i wanted to get married

(2/?) to a woman, now she's all like "are you sure you don't wanna get married to a guy? when i was younger i hated boys too but now i'm happily married to a man. boys grow out of their annoying phase you know." and just the other day she pulled me aside to talk and she said "so i talked to some of my gay coworkers and i think you're actually straight because they all said that they were always attracted to the same sex." i'm not even claiming to be gay first of all. but this got me thinking

(3/?) "what if i actually am straight?" her whole point was that one time, i told a boy that i liked him, and he laughed in my face. i keep on trying to tell her that i've thought boys were obnoxious since i was like 12 (i'm 15 now) but she thinks it's because he rejected me. that's always been a point of insecurity for me though. i realized i was bi only a couple months after he rejected me, and i can't help but feel that i'm just faking it and pretending to be bi because all of my friends were

(4/?) and now i'm feeling even worse bc my mom basically said "i know your sexuality better than you do and i think you're straight" but now she's fucking denying having said that even though she literally fucking said "you're straight." now i'm starting to think i'm not really bi and i just pretended to be bc my friends were bi/pan and bc i got rejected. i kinda hate myself more lmao. anyway, how do i convince her (and myself) that i'm really bi and not just faking it?

First of all, not everyone knows from a young age. I’m one of the people who did know at like, 6, and even then I repressed it and was unsure again by the time I was your age. There’s plenty of straight people who don’t get any crushes until they’re teenagers and there’s no reason that LGB people should be held to a different standard on whether their attraction is “real” or not.��

You don’t have to prove to her that you’re bi. You don’t even have to prove it to yourself. It is completely miserable trying to provide yourself with enough evidence and society is always going to tell you that you can’t be sure enough, so there’s no point. You don’t have to date anyone and you don’t have to try anything to know. Getting into same sex relationships is difficult and in the past it was even harder. Yet same sex couples have always existed. How do you think people with exceptionally small dating pools and all the societal conditioning to pressure them out of it have always gone through the trouble of finding each other and starting relationships, despite not having any prior experience with it? It’s because people can most definitely be sure about their sexuality even if they’ve never gotten “proof” of it (which doesn’t mean your doubts are “invalidating” or in any way uncommon). 

Just about every straight person has gotten rejected at some point yet the hets aren’t exactly dying out. And you know that this pressure you’re feeling to prove yourself is awful; is this really a better feeling than simply having your dating pool limited to the opposite sex when one member has already rejected you? Do you genuinely believe that it makes sense for rejection to push you into believing that you’d rather be bi, even if you actually aren’t, all while it’s causing you this much suffering? 

I hate to use a buzzword but you’re valid, anon. Everyone feels like they’re faking it at some point. I’m like 80% sure I love women more than anyone else on this planet and I still feel like I’m faking it sometimes. It’s okay to be bi and it’s also okay to need time to accept that. Don’t let it get to you. 

PS, reputable sources have informed me that boys do not grow out of their annoying phase and I hope you and your future wife will be very happy together. 

[nightcoremoon]

exfeminists are so fucking shallow and transparent.

we all know you only left because it started to include trans women. or because it started focusing on women of color. or because you were rolling with the misandrist radicals and you’re too fucking stupid to tell the difference.

all that white feminism really is, at its base level, is opposing the system that puts men and masculinity as stronger than and superior over women and femininity. reason I say white feminism is that it’s a different entity than intersectional feminism which focuses on demographics other than gender and how they interact, since black/latina/asian/etc women face issues that white women don’t, muslim women face issues that nonmuslim’s don’t, and not taking into account ethnic differences in our society and the way they are treated is asinine and stupid.

and THATS why you left. because you hate that it’s not about you anymore. back when it was just saying hey you don’t have to shave your legs, hey you shouldn’t go to prison for breastfeeding your baby, hey you can have as much sex as you want, hey you deserve the same business opportunities as men, back when it was all things you could benefit from you rode that train. but now other people got on the train, people you have a problem with, and you hate that they get as much as you do. so you try to blow up the train. because you’re an asshole.

you left the feminism fandom after ship drama went down in favor of the other team. because that’s what you treated it as. a fun hobby with benefits for you.

you spit in the face of every woman subjected to acid in her face or a bullet in the head because she dared to seek an education or divorce her husband. you don’t give a shit about these people, “they’re all in the middle east anyway so who gives a shit about them?”. you spit in the face of every mother to a daughter in china abused abandoned or killed by the father because he wanted a son. you don’t give a shit about these people, “they’re all in a communist state anyway so who gives a shit about them?”. you spit in the face of every Native American woman who was forcibly sterilized, denied the ability to have the children she wanted because white supremacy is reigning genocide to this day against them. you don’t give a shit about these people. you spit in the face of every sexual assault victim denied justice by the corrupt system. you don’t give a shit about these people. you don’t care because they’re not you.

so you focus on abortions. you focus on lesbians. you focus on marginalized gender identities. you focus on the phantom of manhate. you claim that your hate is actually just love for the cult of your chosen religion. you claim that you love embryos. you claim that you just want traditional family values. you claim that you just want to cling to the 3rd grade biology class you learned about chromosomes for the first time. you claim that you can’t be a feminist because you don’t hate men. you pick the dumbest and most easily deconstructed arguments, then you stick your fingers in your ears and go “LALALALALA I CANT HEAR YOU LALALALALA” while you pat yourself on the back and console yourself because, hey, don’t worry, you’re a good person. you’re not racist. you’re not homophobic. you’re not ableist. you’re not a bigot against anything that doesn’t deserve it. you have your rights, don’t worry, you’re totally fine, just ignore the suffering of the people who don’t have the privilege you do and it will all go away. it’s okay. god will deliver you into an eternal orgasmic paradise for eternity when you die because you’re so fucking special, because you’re a good girl, because you earned the validation of The Man. and not just The Man, the BIGGEST Man of all. you have your slice of cake.

fuck everyone else, I have my cake.

edit- I don’t give a fuck about the opinion of anyone who is offended by what I said. don’t bother replying because I don’t care. it just makes blocking you that much easier.

[pink-dolly-blush]

i was a sjw for 3 years as well (from spring 2014 until may this year RIP) what got you into and out of the sjw cult? tell us your story hoe!

Well I’m glad you’re not anymore! :) And LOL I will, hoe 😉

What got me into it? Hmm… just being on tumblr, I guess. I’ve been on tumblr for around 7 years, but I was active for 5 or 6. But I became one in about 2013-14 possibly? I think that was when they were starting to come in, IIRC. I was following some people who were SJWs and I was like, “Yeah! I agree with that!”

I became all the things that SJWs generally are: like BLM supporter, (crazy-ish manhating) feminist, I thought genderfluid/queer was real, believed in cultural appropriation, hated white people, hated America, etc etc. It was a mess overall! I was really just a dumb kid who fell into that sort of thing. And shit that happened during my teenagehood REAALLY didn’t help my victim complex…

But what got me out was simply seeing videos and posts that went against my views. I think I started out by watching a video about how awful BLM was, and then it was like a gateway. All the things I thought and/or supported for years just… lost so much credibility. I was thinking, “Holy shit. They’re right/this movement is awful. What the fuck was I thinking?” I felt like a terrible person for thinking and believing those ideas. Because really, when you get out of being an SJW, it feels like you’ve grown up. That, or you’ve been shaken out of hypnosis. Or reborn. …You get it.

My econ teacher senior year kinda helped me abandon the movement too. I think he was center-right lol, relatively unlike me since I was a democrat. He would tell the class political stuff when he would go on tangents. He’d say something I heard the contrary of and I’d be like “What! No way, right?”. Turns out he was right about a lot of the stuff he said! He was a really smart and cool guy lol.

So when I see SJWs, they annoy me even more than the average person who doesn’t like them. It’s like looking at a past version of myself and I feel ashamed for them. It’s like, will they grow out of it? Will they not? I don’t know.

But yeah! That’s what I can remember lol

TL;DR: Tumblr turned me into one and I stopped being one ‘cause I challenged my views.